The Future of You
The future is full of choices
No matter what, you are responsible for the choices you make in the end. Middle and high school-aged youth stand at a tipping point. Make the right decisions and the future is promising. Make bad choices and regret may follow you for the rest of your life.
At CFUM, our goal is to provide safe and supportive environments for middle and high school youth that help them achieve and maintain their academic and personal success.
Why “Future” is the alternative
In 2009, five Whyld Girls High School mentors attended the National Service-Learning Leadership Conference in Nashville, TN. During this experience, they talked about an important issue taking place in their neighborhood they wanted to change, something they knew they had to do something about: teen pregnancy. They saw peers making risky choices in their relationships with their bodies as well as 13-17-year-old girls getting pregnant. They began to personally think about what choices they would need to make to have a successful future.
As a response to this concern, the Whyld Girls and Backyard Boyz High School mentors have launched their own teen pregnancy prevention campaign: Future. The Alternative F Word. It’s about wanting a successful future… and that starts with making a plan that includes healthy choices for their bodies and minds that affect their success in school and their future dreams. Will you join them
The real facts about sex and boys.
Two-thirds (66%) say they would rather have a girlfriend but no sex compared to only one-third (34%) who say they would prefer to have sex but no girlfriend.
More than half (53%) say they would not have sex with someone unless they really loved her (58% of the younger group, 48% of the older group).
Many (35%) worry that sex will change their relationship.
When asked what makes a relationship serious, guys ranked “the desire to be with someone and wanting to see a future with them” highest on the list. 75% said “becoming exclusive and not dating anyone else;” 61% said “saying ‘I love you;’” while 34% said “having sex.”.
Only 6% of guys say they’ve ever broken up with someone because she wouldn’t have sex with him.
Even more (77%) say that sex can be intimidating for guys.
Among sexually active teen guys and young men, nearly half (45%) say they’ve had sex with someone and regretted it afterward.
In fact, three-quarters of guys (75%) say they would prefer to wait and lose their virginity with someone they love; only one-quarter would rather get it over with as soon as possible.
Nearly three out of four (73%) say they have more respect for girls who say no to sex.
More than half (56%) say they are “relieved” when their female partner wants to wait to have sex.
Nearly one in four (23%) admit they’ve lied to get friends to stop pressuring them about having sex.
23% have lied about not being virgins when they actually were.
More than 8 in 10 (83%) say they would “gladly” wear a condom if asked.
30% have lied about how far they’ve gone sexually.
Two-thirds of guys (65%) who have talked to their parents about preventing pregnancy say it was helpful—unfortunately only slightly more than half (53%) report having had such conversations. Guys are more comfortable talking to their moms about their feelings (how to treat girls, their feelings about girls), but want to talk with their dads about sex and protection.
Three-quarters (74%) say that sex wouldn’t make them stay in a relationship they didn’t want to be in.
Control your body and your future.
Teen girls (70%) are more likely than teen boys (53%) to view teen pregnancy as an important problem.
Hispanic teen girls (53%) are less likely than non-Hispanic black (69%) or non-Hispanic white (74%) teen girls to describe teen pregnancy as a challenge that they could manage.
Three in 10 girls in the United States become pregnant before turning 20. Despite continuous declines since the early 1990s, the United States still has the highest rate of teen pregnancy among developed nations. Teen pregnancy affects every race, community, and economic group in our country. While the rates of teen pregnancy remain high among all racial and ethnic groups, at present more than half (53%) of Latina teens get pregnant at least once before age 20—nearly twice the national average.
Almost seven in ten Latina teen mothers (69%) drop out of high school, compared to 58% of teen moms overall (Manlove, 1998)
Most teens (65% of girls and 57% of boys) who have had sex say they wish they had waited.
When asked how they would react to getting pregnant/causing a pregnancy, 24% of girls and 22% of boys said: “it would make my life a little more challenging, but I could manage.” About seven in ten (69% of girls and 71% of boys) said “it would be a real challenge and I’m not sure how I would manage.
Teen girls (69%) are more likely than teen boys (58%) to be concerned about their parents finding out about birth control.
Adults are more accepting than boys (21%) rather than girls (13%) are having sex.
Teen girls (70%) are more likely than teen boys (50%) to believe it is very important that teens be encouraged to delay sex.
52% of Latina teens get pregnant at least once before age 20—nearly twice the national average.
50% of black teen girls get pregnant at least once before age 20—nearly twice the national average.
Source: The National Campaign to prevent teen and unplanned pregnancy, April 2011.